Wednesday, July 21, 2010

LATE OR DELAYED MARRIAGES WHO IS TO BLAME MEN OR WOMEN?






That was the topic of we had in my church sometimes back at the singles interactive and it was explosive. The audience was divided into different sitting groups based on what they believe was the answer. Group (A) believes the gods(i.e economy and circumstances beyond mans control), are to be blamed and not the man or the woman, Group (B) believes men are to be blamed, Group (C) believes both men and women are responsible, Group (D) believes women are responsible.
Others believed every individual is responsible for the state their relationships. Some of us believe the matter is not as simply as that. So what do you think?




For group (A), they are like the economy and circumstances beyond man is responsible, in that in the absence of a good job, etc., its not wise to take on the added responsibility of marriage and children.
On the other hand, Group (B) especially the women in this group argued that it takes man to propose, if the man doesn't propose there is nothing the woman can do, further, they are like men are deceitful and as a woman you don't really know where you are in their heart.

The men in this group also opined that men are always looking for women beyond their reach instead of one at their level that no matter where you are as a man there is always a woman who will appreciate you and stick with even if it means sleeping on the mat with you. So for them the fault lies with men looking for women beyond their level.



Group © are like women can be choosy, and men are not ready financially. So the fault lies both ways. Group (D) are of the opinion that women have become materialistic, that women really are more interested in a guy who is financially ready. They also opined that most women are not willing to submit and that they have become carried away by career and education etc, interestingly it was the women themselves that said this.

Well I have my own opinion but one thing I observed no one tried to answer the question from a biblical perspective which I believe makes the submissions unedifying and an exercise in mental argument, blame calling rather than an attempt at discovering the truth. i.e Gods mind on this problem.
I hope to state my take on the issue soon meanwhile whats your take on it.

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