Besides, a woman’s beauty doesn’t make other women ugly, meaning if it’s about what he wants and trying to be it, other women can do that, where does that live you? In competition? When all you do is make yourself pretty, you only put yourself in the position of being just another pretty face in a line up of many other pretty faces.
But no other can compete with God’s mystery of beauty in you if you understand it and walk in it.
Every single thing in life is made for another thing; therefore everything has what it takes to attract that which it was meant for. Your need and desires for right relationships goes beyond you, it lies at the very root of God’s purpose and design. When people don’t connect God’s plan is frustrated. We are made for relationships and relationships of every kind is the means through which God establishes His purpose on earth, yet we can’t force people into relationship with ourselves even God can’t force people into relationship with Him. Beauty is God’s principle or design, that connects a desire He created in one for the dimension of beauty He created in another.
When you begin to discover what beauty really means i.e. its effects, character, fruit, purpose and definition you will discover that though you can make yourself the kind of woman a guy wants, or wants to sleep with or even date, you can’t make yourself what a man needs and desires to commit to. To want something is different from needing it. Only God can make you what a man needs, which is the true source of unfading attraction and commitment.
As you will soon discover, there is beauty in everything God made but the beauty is in different dimensions, your dimension of beauty is in the particular dimension of attraction which God has put in you to be revealed by you and so recognized, desired and pursued by another. It takes the beauty God reveals in you to draw the desire of men to you in the way God designed rather than what you try to be to attract men.
Furthermore the different dimension of beauty is cultivated and expressed in different ways.
When a man looks at a woman there is so much he doesn’t see, there is so much he can’t see or is prevented from seeing, because of his nature and because of what he is looking at. There is difference between looking and seeing. Man basically forms or fails to form relationship with the woman based on what he knows or thinks he knows based on what He is looking at. Which is both wrong.
Rather you are meant to shape peoples relationship with you by revealing what they need to know.
Philemon 1;6
“That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus.” KJV
Acknowledgment is an extremely important word here. According to the Vines Bible Dictionary;
It means the being brought to complete comprehension (Epignosis) after the first knowledge (Gnosis) i.e. being brought to a fuller, better acquaintance, recognition, discernment with something previously known; a more exact view of something previously held or known leading to a greater participation (.e.g) by (A) the knower(i.e. man) in (B) the object known(i.e. the woman) thus (object known(i.e. the woman) more powerfully influencing him (the knower) (A) the man.
In this case it is A that is transformed by the knowledge. Changing his attitude towards B because of what he has come to discover about (B).
B is always who or what she is, but until she effectively communicates who she is, A, will continue to see her and relate with her based on what A assumes thinks or previously knows about her. Everyone has opinion about everyone and so relates based on that knowledge but no one knows you better than yourself.
There is so much a man does not know about himself, his needs and you. The revelation of your true beauty is designed to stimulate the desire God buried in the man not for just you or a relationship but for the beauty God crafted in you transforming him. It will amaze you how you are best positioned to reveal his need for you and so shape the relationship based on God’s underlying plans and as you walk in it, in the situations God and life throws up.
Adam never saw his need for the woman let alone ask God for one.
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